5 Reasons Speed Dating Breaks The Online Dating Myth

We are a culture obsessed with perfection. We photo shop are photos, analyze our profiles for perfect wording in order to create the best possible impression on paper. The problem is it’s still on paper. You can can go through thousands of online profiles and photos looking for the perfect person and still not talk to a single person.

I held my first event as a Los Angeles speed dating event host last week and was shocked when 24 normal, friendly, everyday people showed up. When I first met these people I thought these nice people are never going to find a match. After all I live in Los Angeles where everyone is either a model or an actor.These people were no where near that level of “perfection.”

To my pleasure these speed dating participants came up with 16 double matches between them. Meaning that 67% agreed to speak to each other again! It was especially rewarding to watch one of my male coaching clients come to life and get 2 double matches after being down on himself and not dating for 8 months.

I consider it a victory for humankind and the power of connection that at the end of the day all we really want is to talk and feel connection. I want to congratulate those people who came and thank them for encouraging me to be myself. Morale of the story in my experience online dating focuses on the myth of perfection, speed dating is for real people who like real people.

Five Reasons Why You Should Speed Date vs. Online Dating!

1. Speed Dating or Singles Mixers Have No Room For Catfishing! (Catfishing- the act of deceiving someone you meet online by portraying yourself to be someone you’re not). Thankfully, with speed dating, you meet people in person. They don’t have a chance to deceive you with a fake profile. What you see is what you get.

2. You are able to see if there is chemistry right away. Often, what happens with online dating is you may have a good connection online, but chemistry falls flat when you meet in person. You’re able to look for compatibility within a person to person meeting.

3. Speed Dating is less superficial than online dating. Online daters, at first, evaluate someone’s physical attractiveness, body type and general lifestyle. With speed dating you get the chance to discover your prospects personality as well as the physical.

4. The participants have paid a fee to attend and usually are professionals with careers and money available for recreational activities. At a free online dating site they may be surfing the web because they have nothing else to do!

5. No matter what you put on your online profile, you will still get people way out of your desired age range or location sending you messages! The basic speed dating event is targeted to local areas and specific age ranges so you will not be out of place at an event and know what to expect.

You can always mix the two: Why not invite one (or two) of your online prospects if they’re in the area. It’s the safe way to meet in person!

Holiday Calendars Online – An Important Business Tool

Can an online holiday calendar help your business?

Yes it can, and the online holiday calendar we recommend is EarthCalendar.net.

With this site, you simply go to “Holidays by Date”, choose a month and click “Show Holiday”. For example, here are the holidays for August:

o Children’s eye health and safety month,
o Cataract awareness month,
o Foot health month,
o National catfish month,
o National golf month,
o National parks month,
o Medic alert month,
o Spinal muscular atrophy awareness month

In just August alone, there are several good holidays to use for marketing purposes. National parks month could be great for businesses which sell hiking or camping equipment, foot health month is great for running shoes or pedicure supplies, and, of course, golf month is a haven for people who sell golfing supplies.

Of course, not all of August contains occasions which will help with making money. Some of them can specifically help you make others feel better. Here are some examples.

o Clown week – First full week of August
o World breastfeeding week – If you are interested in making people want to read your emails or blogs, ‘breastfeed’ your ‘baby’ through advertising and making your titles eye catching.
o National smile week – First full week of August as well. This is a good time to put a smile on the faces of your customers or your visitors by offering them a joke each day.
o Elvis week – Second week of August. A good time to reach out to all of your Elvis fans.
o National Friendship week – Third week of August and a great time to email your list and let them know that you are thinking of them.
o Be Kind to Human Kind week – Fourth week of August. This is a good time to make a contribution to a charity.

It’s easy to see why having a calendar like the one that you can get at EarthCalendar.net is a good idea.

Google does it why not you?

Google changes their logos to fit the holidays and it works well for them, so why not do it yourself.

Simple Tips to Get You Through Online Dating

I think that the pros of online dating is as I have experienced them include the fact that you can scroll through the people that you want and do not want. Although people lie, it takes some of the guess work out of things about them. If you have a list of what type of man you want, you can quickly eliminate people based off of the answers to some of their questions. For example, if you want someone who has a college education, who is a Christian, who has a decent job, then you can rule out the profiles that say they are non-religious and unemployed. If they are proud of themselves and what they do, then more than likely they are going to be open and list these things.

I can recall one man that I meant online. He wanted me to give him my number. Upon viewing his profile I found that many things were blank, his education, employment, kids, I mean almost everything. What is the big secret? So I kindly asked him what he did for a living. He actively avoided my question several times. I decided to ask him one more time and he told me I was either going to give him my number or I wasn’t. I chose not to. At the end of the day what is the big secret that you cannot tell me where you work, what you do, or what type of field you are in. What are you a drug dealer? This is not like I am asking you classified information. So be wary of people that do not want to tell you anything about themselves. They could either be married or losers, perhaps even a combination of both. What is the point of creating an online profile if everything on it is blank?

Also be wary of people who do not have a picture. If you are on a site looking for love, then a person should not want to be super secretive. How are you going to expect anyone to want to talk to you if you do not have a picture? Most, if not all dating sites you cannot search other members unless you are a member yourself. So they cannot say they are afraid of who will see them. The same person that is seeing them is a member them self. If they do not want to put a picture up, I fear that are hiding something, mainly their wife or girlfriend who they don’t want to find out that they are on the site.

If you asked them to send you a picture and you do not like what you see, then what? Is it this awkward moment where you are just not going to respond back. I just feel like people who do not put a picture have something to hide. In this day and age people put their picture on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, so what is the big deal about putting it on a dating site. Also be wary of people who only put one picture. They should have several. If you have ever watched the show Catfish, then you know how people can pretend to be other people online. A quick way to ensure that they are the right person is to see multiple pictures of them in different settings. To make sure that it is them.

The last advice that I can give to you in regards to online dating. Is to try paid over free. It is my opinion and experience that if it is a paid site you can have more success and know people are more serious. Why else would they waste their money. I think that you will have more luck on the paid sites and know that they are more prepared for love.