Top Tips of Keeping Yourself From Getting Catfished Online

As a single mother, I am not ashamed to admit that I have tried online dating. Online dating for me turned out to be more of a social experiment as oppose to a way to find love. There are many commercials and real life stories of people who have found their husband or wife through online dating. So, it is a good assumption to say that there are some people who do reap some benefits from online dating.

But if you watch just one episode of catfish you can see that their are many online dating horror stories. In fact it amazes me at how many people get tricked into dating people for years without ever really knowing what they look like. So here are my tips on how to prevent yourself from getting cat fished online.

Ask For Pictures

Obviously if you met the person online, then you are going to see pictures of them. But just because the pictures are on their profile does not mean that these are pictures of them. Once you start talking to someone, try to ask for random photos at random times of the day. Most importantly ask them to text it to you.

A red flag is if when asking for a picture of someone, and they constantly put you off or send you a picture days after you have asked them. This may be a sign that they got the picture from somewhere or someone else.

Skype or Video Chat.

This one should be a no brainier, if you want to make sure the person that you are talking to is really the person you are talking to, then of course you need to see them. It shocks me how people can go on for years and years with talking to someone online and not see their face. Then magically they are somehow shocked that when they really see the person it is not them.

After talking to someone for a while, video chatting with them is perfectly normal and expected. Once again if someone is actively avoiding you from seeing them, then they are not who they say they are. You should be concerned.

Talk To Them on The Phone

Talking on the phone is one of the easiest things you can do. Almost everyone has a cell phone and there are no long distant charges so there is no reason why someone cannot talk on the phone with you. Some red flags to look out for is not being able to talk on the phone, never talking on the phone while they are at home, or being rushed off the phone. This may not only signify that they are are not who they say they are, but that they may be hiding a spouse or a hidden life from you as to why they are not free to talk on the phone at various times of the day.

Background Check

I am not talking about running their social security number but rather researching the information they tell you. This includes running their image through image search to see if the pictures on their profile come up as someone else. Also do a reverse phone search, their phone number should come up registered to them and in the location they say they are in.

Progression of the Relationships

As with any relationships, their should be some type of progression. This means you should be talking on the phone, seeing each other, making plans to go on real life dates. Never under any circumstances should you be in a situations where you have been taking to someone for years and years and have never even seen their face. After of about two month (max) of talking to someone, you have not seen their face in person or on Skype then just let it go. Something is wrong here.

As a single women and mother I have tried all the dating tips and trick. And they are all in my book “Waiting For A Man After God’s Own Heart.” Read the first two chapters free on Amazon. Click this link to purchase http://www.amazon.com/Waiting-After-Gods-Heart-Encouragement/dp/1493698303/ref=tmm_pap_title_0

Holiday Calendars Online – An Important Business Tool

Can an online holiday calendar help your business?

Yes it can, and the online holiday calendar we recommend is EarthCalendar.net.

With this site, you simply go to “Holidays by Date”, choose a month and click “Show Holiday”. For example, here are the holidays for August:

o Children’s eye health and safety month,
o Cataract awareness month,
o Foot health month,
o National catfish month,
o National golf month,
o National parks month,
o Medic alert month,
o Spinal muscular atrophy awareness month

In just August alone, there are several good holidays to use for marketing purposes. National parks month could be great for businesses which sell hiking or camping equipment, foot health month is great for running shoes or pedicure supplies, and, of course, golf month is a haven for people who sell golfing supplies.

Of course, not all of August contains occasions which will help with making money. Some of them can specifically help you make others feel better. Here are some examples.

o Clown week – First full week of August
o World breastfeeding week – If you are interested in making people want to read your emails or blogs, ‘breastfeed’ your ‘baby’ through advertising and making your titles eye catching.
o National smile week – First full week of August as well. This is a good time to put a smile on the faces of your customers or your visitors by offering them a joke each day.
o Elvis week – Second week of August. A good time to reach out to all of your Elvis fans.
o National Friendship week – Third week of August and a great time to email your list and let them know that you are thinking of them.
o Be Kind to Human Kind week – Fourth week of August. This is a good time to make a contribution to a charity.

It’s easy to see why having a calendar like the one that you can get at EarthCalendar.net is a good idea.

Google does it why not you?

Google changes their logos to fit the holidays and it works well for them, so why not do it yourself.

5 Reasons Speed Dating Breaks The Online Dating Myth

We are a culture obsessed with perfection. We photo shop are photos, analyze our profiles for perfect wording in order to create the best possible impression on paper. The problem is it’s still on paper. You can can go through thousands of online profiles and photos looking for the perfect person and still not talk to a single person.

I held my first event as a Los Angeles speed dating event host last week and was shocked when 24 normal, friendly, everyday people showed up. When I first met these people I thought these nice people are never going to find a match. After all I live in Los Angeles where everyone is either a model or an actor.These people were no where near that level of “perfection.”

To my pleasure these speed dating participants came up with 16 double matches between them. Meaning that 67% agreed to speak to each other again! It was especially rewarding to watch one of my male coaching clients come to life and get 2 double matches after being down on himself and not dating for 8 months.

I consider it a victory for humankind and the power of connection that at the end of the day all we really want is to talk and feel connection. I want to congratulate those people who came and thank them for encouraging me to be myself. Morale of the story in my experience online dating focuses on the myth of perfection, speed dating is for real people who like real people.

Five Reasons Why You Should Speed Date vs. Online Dating!

1. Speed Dating or Singles Mixers Have No Room For Catfishing! (Catfishing- the act of deceiving someone you meet online by portraying yourself to be someone you’re not). Thankfully, with speed dating, you meet people in person. They don’t have a chance to deceive you with a fake profile. What you see is what you get.

2. You are able to see if there is chemistry right away. Often, what happens with online dating is you may have a good connection online, but chemistry falls flat when you meet in person. You’re able to look for compatibility within a person to person meeting.

3. Speed Dating is less superficial than online dating. Online daters, at first, evaluate someone’s physical attractiveness, body type and general lifestyle. With speed dating you get the chance to discover your prospects personality as well as the physical.

4. The participants have paid a fee to attend and usually are professionals with careers and money available for recreational activities. At a free online dating site they may be surfing the web because they have nothing else to do!

5. No matter what you put on your online profile, you will still get people way out of your desired age range or location sending you messages! The basic speed dating event is targeted to local areas and specific age ranges so you will not be out of place at an event and know what to expect.

You can always mix the two: Why not invite one (or two) of your online prospects if they’re in the area. It’s the safe way to meet in person!