5 Reasons Speed Dating Breaks The Online Dating Myth

We are a culture obsessed with perfection. We photo shop are photos, analyze our profiles for perfect wording in order to create the best possible impression on paper. The problem is it’s still on paper. You can can go through thousands of online profiles and photos looking for the perfect person and still not talk to a single person.

I held my first event as a Los Angeles speed dating event host last week and was shocked when 24 normal, friendly, everyday people showed up. When I first met these people I thought these nice people are never going to find a match. After all I live in Los Angeles where everyone is either a model or an actor.These people were no where near that level of “perfection.”

To my pleasure these speed dating participants came up with 16 double matches between them. Meaning that 67% agreed to speak to each other again! It was especially rewarding to watch one of my male coaching clients come to life and get 2 double matches after being down on himself and not dating for 8 months.

I consider it a victory for humankind and the power of connection that at the end of the day all we really want is to talk and feel connection. I want to congratulate those people who came and thank them for encouraging me to be myself. Morale of the story in my experience online dating focuses on the myth of perfection, speed dating is for real people who like real people.

Five Reasons Why You Should Speed Date vs. Online Dating!

1. Speed Dating or Singles Mixers Have No Room For Catfishing! (Catfishing- the act of deceiving someone you meet online by portraying yourself to be someone you’re not). Thankfully, with speed dating, you meet people in person. They don’t have a chance to deceive you with a fake profile. What you see is what you get.

2. You are able to see if there is chemistry right away. Often, what happens with online dating is you may have a good connection online, but chemistry falls flat when you meet in person. You’re able to look for compatibility within a person to person meeting.

3. Speed Dating is less superficial than online dating. Online daters, at first, evaluate someone’s physical attractiveness, body type and general lifestyle. With speed dating you get the chance to discover your prospects personality as well as the physical.

4. The participants have paid a fee to attend and usually are professionals with careers and money available for recreational activities. At a free online dating site they may be surfing the web because they have nothing else to do!

5. No matter what you put on your online profile, you will still get people way out of your desired age range or location sending you messages! The basic speed dating event is targeted to local areas and specific age ranges so you will not be out of place at an event and know what to expect.

You can always mix the two: Why not invite one (or two) of your online prospects if they’re in the area. It’s the safe way to meet in person!

Holiday Calendars Online – An Important Business Tool

Can an online holiday calendar help your business?

Yes it can, and the online holiday calendar we recommend is EarthCalendar.net.

With this site, you simply go to “Holidays by Date”, choose a month and click “Show Holiday”. For example, here are the holidays for August:

o Children’s eye health and safety month,
o Cataract awareness month,
o Foot health month,
o National catfish month,
o National golf month,
o National parks month,
o Medic alert month,
o Spinal muscular atrophy awareness month

In just August alone, there are several good holidays to use for marketing purposes. National parks month could be great for businesses which sell hiking or camping equipment, foot health month is great for running shoes or pedicure supplies, and, of course, golf month is a haven for people who sell golfing supplies.

Of course, not all of August contains occasions which will help with making money. Some of them can specifically help you make others feel better. Here are some examples.

o Clown week – First full week of August
o World breastfeeding week – If you are interested in making people want to read your emails or blogs, ‘breastfeed’ your ‘baby’ through advertising and making your titles eye catching.
o National smile week – First full week of August as well. This is a good time to put a smile on the faces of your customers or your visitors by offering them a joke each day.
o Elvis week – Second week of August. A good time to reach out to all of your Elvis fans.
o National Friendship week – Third week of August and a great time to email your list and let them know that you are thinking of them.
o Be Kind to Human Kind week – Fourth week of August. This is a good time to make a contribution to a charity.

It’s easy to see why having a calendar like the one that you can get at EarthCalendar.net is a good idea.

Google does it why not you?

Google changes their logos to fit the holidays and it works well for them, so why not do it yourself.

Cyber Crooks Go “Phishing”

“Phishing,” the latest craze among online evil-doers, has nothing to do with sitting at the end of a dock on a sunny afternoon dangling a worm to entice hungry catfish.

But, if you take their bait, this new breed of online con artist will hook you, reel you in, and take you for every dollar you have… or worse.

“Phishing” describes a combination of techniques used by cyber crooks to bait people into giving up sensitive personal data such as credit card numbers, social security numbers, bank account numbers, dates of birth and more.

Their techniques work so well that, according to FraudWatchInternational.com [http://FraudWatchInternational.com], “phishing” rates as the fastest growing scam on the Internet.

Here’s the basic pattern for a “phishing” scam…

You receive a very official email that appears to originate from a legitimate source, such as a bank, eBay, PayPal, a major retailer, or some other well known entity.

In the email it tells you that something bad is about to happen unless you act quickly.

Typically it tells you that your account is about to get closed, that someone appears to have stolen your identity, or even that someone opened a fraudulent account using your name.

In order to help straighten everything out, you need to click a link in the email and provide some basic account information so they can verify your identity and then give you additional details so you can help get everything cleared up.

Once you give up your information… it’s all over but the crying!

After getting your information, these cyber-bandits can empty your bank accounts, deplete your PayPal accounts, run up your credit card balances, open new credit accounts, assume your identity and much worse.

An especially disturbing new variation of this scam specifically targets online business owners and affiliate marketers.

In this con, the scammer’s email informs you that they’ve just sent $1,219.43 (or a similar big but believable amount) in affiliate commissions to you via PayPal.

They need you to log into your PayPal account to verify receipt of the money and then email them back to confirm you got it.

Since you’re so excited at the possibility of an unexpected pay day, you click the link to go to PayPal, log in, and BANG! They have your PayPal login information and can empty your account.

This new “phishing” style scam works extremely well for 2 basic reasons.

First, by exploiting your sense of urgency created by fear or greed, crooks get you to click the link and give them your information without thinking.

Second, the scammers use a variety of cloaking and spoofing techniques to make their emails and websites appear totally legitimate, making it extremely hard to spot a fake website, especially when they’ve first whipped you into an emotional frenzy.

The good news, however, is that you can protect yourself relatively easily against this type of cyber-crime with basic software and common sense.

Most of these scams get delivered to you via Spam (unsolicited email), so a good spam blocker will cut down on many of them even making it to your inbox.

If you receive an email that looks legitimate and you want to respond, Stop – Wait – Think!

Verify all phone numbers with a physical phone book or online phone directory like w

Look for spelling and grammatical errors that make it look like someone who doesn’t speak English or your native language very well wrote it.

Never click the link provided in the email, but go directly to the website by typing in the main address of the site yourself (paypall).

Forward the email to the main email address of the website or call the customer service number on the main website you typed in yourself and ask if it is in fact legitimate.

Above all remember this:

Your bank, credit card company, PayPal, eBay and anyone else you deal with online already knows your account number, username, password or any other account specific information.

They don’t need to email you for ANY reason to ask you to confirm your information — so NEVER respond to email requests for your account or personal details.