How Not to Get “Catfished”

The world of online dating offers plenty of wonderful opportunities to meet compatible people. However, it also leaves you vulnerable to the phenomenon of “catfishing.” The term (which comes from a remarkable 2010 documentary and a compelling MTV show) refers to individuals who create elaborate false identities, luring unsuspecting victims into fraudulent online relationships that sometimes last for years. It’s heartbreaking and alarming to think that the gorgeous guy or girl you’re talking to may be nothing more than mirage projected by someone unstable or sadistic, but don’t let that put you off online dating. Here’s what you need to know about how to avoid being catfished.

Monitor plausibility

Some people who catfish are using their false online identity to do something akin to living out their dream lives. As a result, it’s smart to look out for ridiculous life stories that just don’t seem realistic. Are you talking to a supermodel, a powerful member of government or an individual with a 100 page CV of personal tragedies? If so, strongly consider the possibility that you are being duped.

Look for evasive attitudes

Be very wary if you notice that someone is unwilling to provide more than just a few photos of themselves or is constantly evading any attempt to meet in person. Even if you are not being catfished, someone who tries to avoid a personal meeting will almost definitely have something else to hide (often a spouse).

Do your research

Search around to see if this person’s alleged identity seems legitimate. For example, you should be able to find a departmental profile of someone who claims to be a college professor. It’s also worth browsing through the images that come up when you enter the person’s name and location. While nothing is foolproof, it is particularly useful if your contact will happily connect with you using Facebook or another social networking site where you can see them regularly interact with a large number of people who appear to verify their story.

Ask for proof

Given the increasing awareness of catfishing, you should be able to ask people on online dating sites to prove their identity without hurting their feelings. You can explain that you’ve heard bizarre stories and are very cautious about getting to know people without some sort of objective evidence of honesty. For example, it might be a good idea to ask the person to send a photo in which they hold up a piece of paper stating their name and the current date. If you don’t want to be explicit about your need for proof, simply ask for a Skype session with audio and video. While this can only verify their true appearance, it does help to weed out some catfish.

Keep your emotional distance until you meet

Finally, hold off on divulging lots of deeply personal information that a particularly pernicious catfish might use against you or even use for identity theft. Where possible, try to reserve judgment until you meet the individual in person and are more capable of assessing their genuineness.

by Yaro Babiy

Simple Tips to Get You Through Online Dating

I think that the pros of online dating is as I have experienced them include the fact that you can scroll through the people that you want and do not want. Although people lie, it takes some of the guess work out of things about them. If you have a list of what type of man you want, you can quickly eliminate people based off of the answers to some of their questions. For example, if you want someone who has a college education, who is a Christian, who has a decent job, then you can rule out the profiles that say they are non-religious and unemployed. If they are proud of themselves and what they do, then more than likely they are going to be open and list these things.

I can recall one man that I meant online. He wanted me to give him my number. Upon viewing his profile I found that many things were blank, his education, employment, kids, I mean almost everything. What is the big secret? So I kindly asked him what he did for a living. He actively avoided my question several times. I decided to ask him one more time and he told me I was either going to give him my number or I wasn’t. I chose not to. At the end of the day what is the big secret that you cannot tell me where you work, what you do, or what type of field you are in. What are you a drug dealer? This is not like I am asking you classified information. So be wary of people that do not want to tell you anything about themselves. They could either be married or losers, perhaps even a combination of both. What is the point of creating an online profile if everything on it is blank?

Also be wary of people who do not have a picture. If you are on a site looking for love, then a person should not want to be super secretive. How are you going to expect anyone to want to talk to you if you do not have a picture? Most, if not all dating sites you cannot search other members unless you are a member yourself. So they cannot say they are afraid of who will see them. The same person that is seeing them is a member them self. If they do not want to put a picture up, I fear that are hiding something, mainly their wife or girlfriend who they don’t want to find out that they are on the site.

If you asked them to send you a picture and you do not like what you see, then what? Is it this awkward moment where you are just not going to respond back. I just feel like people who do not put a picture have something to hide. In this day and age people put their picture on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, so what is the big deal about putting it on a dating site. Also be wary of people who only put one picture. They should have several. If you have ever watched the show Catfish, then you know how people can pretend to be other people online. A quick way to ensure that they are the right person is to see multiple pictures of them in different settings. To make sure that it is them.

The last advice that I can give to you in regards to online dating. Is to try paid over free. It is my opinion and experience that if it is a paid site you can have more success and know people are more serious. Why else would they waste their money. I think that you will have more luck on the paid sites and know that they are more prepared for love.

Holiday Calendars Online – An Important Business Tool

Can an online holiday calendar help your business?

Yes it can, and the online holiday calendar we recommend is EarthCalendar.net.

With this site, you simply go to “Holidays by Date”, choose a month and click “Show Holiday”. For example, here are the holidays for August:

o Children’s eye health and safety month,
o Cataract awareness month,
o Foot health month,
o National catfish month,
o National golf month,
o National parks month,
o Medic alert month,
o Spinal muscular atrophy awareness month

In just August alone, there are several good holidays to use for marketing purposes. National parks month could be great for businesses which sell hiking or camping equipment, foot health month is great for running shoes or pedicure supplies, and, of course, golf month is a haven for people who sell golfing supplies.

Of course, not all of August contains occasions which will help with making money. Some of them can specifically help you make others feel better. Here are some examples.

o Clown week – First full week of August
o World breastfeeding week – If you are interested in making people want to read your emails or blogs, ‘breastfeed’ your ‘baby’ through advertising and making your titles eye catching.
o National smile week – First full week of August as well. This is a good time to put a smile on the faces of your customers or your visitors by offering them a joke each day.
o Elvis week – Second week of August. A good time to reach out to all of your Elvis fans.
o National Friendship week – Third week of August and a great time to email your list and let them know that you are thinking of them.
o Be Kind to Human Kind week – Fourth week of August. This is a good time to make a contribution to a charity.

It’s easy to see why having a calendar like the one that you can get at EarthCalendar.net is a good idea.

Google does it why not you?

Google changes their logos to fit the holidays and it works well for them, so why not do it yourself.